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We all like to be celebrated and cheered on. But how would you feel if no one or very few people cheered for you after you have made the next step in your goal, or when you went from 20 sales to your first 100 sales? Or how about your business launch that you’ve been working so hard on is a success? I’m sure for many of us, it won’t feel good. The hard truth is, the people we feel need to celebrate our achievements and milestones and we are often not the ones to do so. We have to learn to be okay with that.
In all honesty, that was a hard pill for me to swallow. Over the years, I really cheered and supported them. I love to see anyone working and achieving their goals. So, when I didn’t receive the support I had been given for so many years, I felt humiliated. And this is not because I feel like someone owes me something. It’s more like, “Hey, we can go further if we support each other. So, why not?” But then I was so busy working on my projects that I didn’t have the capacity to worry about who wouldn’t support me. I tend to focus more on people who support me.
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Why you should become your own cheerleader
It is not easy to get to the point where we can say “I have invested so much time and my finances in making my dreams come true, and I am finally here.” So, it’s understandable to be proud of yourself and want others to be proud of you too. This may interest you : Laurier wins 10th competitive cheerleading national title. But if we expect others to be our cheerleaders instead of us being our own biggest cheerleaders, we set ourselves up for frustration and maybe anger at times.
In Be Your Own Cheerleader: An Asian and South Asian Woman’s Cultural, Psychological, and Spiritual Guide to Self-Promote at Work, Neelu Kaur writes, “Besides being a super rock star in your role at work, your other job — and actually the most important job you will ever have – is to manage your mental health. This is not an easy task and requires constant vigilance about what you allow in and out of your precious mind. The internal dialogue you have with yourself. The inner critic can run the show and your job is to make sure you keep it in check. The inner critic doesn’t run the show; you do. You ultimately have a choice: Are you going to let your inner critic work or are you going to manage and lead your inner critic? Empowerment comes from place to manage negative inner dialogue.”
I love this passage because even though the author is speaking in terms of the workplace, it is something we should apply to our personal and professional lives. Life will be better if we do. We must learn to be our own cheerleaders and recognize the benefits of it. Hopefully, these five tips that I shared will help you.
1. Don’t have expectations for others
No one cares more about what your goals are than you. You know what your vision is and how you plan to make that vision a reality. Read also : Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders lead camp at Channel Islands High School. No one else understands that, so you can’t expect them to care like you do. Of course, it’s good to get any kind of support while on your journey, but don’t weigh yourself down with negative emotions if you don’t get it.
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2. Celebrate any milestone
It’s freeing and a confidence booster to celebrate yourself. It doesn’t matter what size milestone you hit or what the achievement is. To see also : Detroit Lions fan arrested for taking provocative photos of cheerleaders – Game 7. Celebrate everything. The more you celebrate yourself, the less you will care about those who don’t celebrate you.
3. Cheer yourself on
Write down your goals, and once you achieve them, be proud of yourself. Give yourself a mental high five, and maybe treat yourself to something nice. Speak positively to yourself. I’m a firm believer in manifesting into something real, so I often say what I want in my life as if it were. Know and understand that you are as worthy as anyone else.
4. View yourself as your ally, your own best friend
Being your own friend means supporting and motivating yourself like you would a friend – showing up when others can’t or won’t. You will gain more self-awareness, confidence and compassion for yourself in doing so.
5. Practice positive affirmations
Practicing writing positive affirmations is another way to cheer yourself on. Affirmations motivate you, challenge you, and encourage you to reach your full potential in life.
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So, celebrate your achievements even if no one else does. Don’t expect anyone to support you, and don’t be angry if they don’t. Showing yourself to support the same as a friend, will increase your confidence and happiness.
In conclusion, being a cheerleader yourself is not about being arrogant or thinking you are better than anyone else, but about making sure you don’t feel the need or desire to rely on others to validate you and your accomplishments. It’s also about taking steps to protect your mental health.